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The Crippling Power of Pride

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I had a conversation yesterday with a colleague from work that continues to linger with me.

During our small talk, the conversation turned to the topic of our children respectively.

He happens to have a 20-something son who teaches English to executives in Japan. His son also works part-time at a Japanese university where he teaches English.

When I asked if his son spoke Japanese the father replied, “…not very well…”

He went on to say that when his son goes to the doctor’s office for any particular issue or reason the son must bring a Japanese translator to the physician.

Here’s why…

Ironically, most trained and licensed physicians in Japan speak English – but they may not do it very well. Because of the status and esteem that doctors have in that country, they would rather not communicate in English so that they avoid making a mistake.

In the eyes of the physician, that kind of a “mistake” would be devastating for them to endure, embarrass them and somehow diminish their personal perception of status.

The obvious problem is that these individuals have a skill (speaking English), that they paid tutors thousands of dollars to obtain and spent hundreds of hours studying, yet they choose NOT to use it because they’re too embarrassed that they’ll make a mistake.

My friend said, “Why did they even bother to learn English?”

Indeed. Their pride is crippling them in this regard.

This brief interaction reminded me of the following proverb:

“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” ~ Proverbs 11:2

Perhaps each of us might do well with a healthy dose of humility. It seems that humility and a willingness to look foolish results in freedom to learn, which then leads to wisdom.

It’s counter intuitive that pride has this crippling power that and holds us back, while humility has the power to liberate and propels us forward.

Question: How is pride holding you back? Has humility ever given you a sense of freedom?

 

  • http://twitter.com/cupojoegirl Eileen Knowles

    Great thoughts, Tor. Yes is the answer for both your questions. Pride (and the fear of failure) will always hold me back. And Yes, when I choose to step out beyond the fear, God uses it that in ways far beyond my ability. Mistakes and all.

  • http://theromanticvineyard.com/ Debi Walter

    Excellent post! Yes, I must admit pride has held me back far too many times and humility was for most of my life unheard of. Until I met Mr. Andrew Murray through his excellent book, “Humility.” God used this little book in a profound way in my life and continues to do so. I read it each year during my birthday month to help me keep fighting pride with the help God supplies. It will be a lifelong battle, I’m certain.
    Your post goes well with our analogy from the Olympics today too. Thanks for the reminder, Tor. I needed to hear this.
    Blessings,
    Debi

  • Roy A. Ackerman, PhD, EA

    Ah, but I can give you a converse reaction…
    I can speak several foreign languages. But, because of the nature of who I am, I think in English or Hebrew. Every other language I speak involves me thinking in Hebrew and translating (hopefully, fast enough for normal conversation… which is usually true by the second day in the foreign country) to the vernacular.
    Once I was having a conversation with a foreign colleague, and my son was present. When we departed, he asked me if I noticed that Guillaume had gotten a little “lost” at one point of our conversation- but eventually got the point. I said, “Yes, I had. And, I didn’t think I was being overcomplex.” My son looked at me and said- well, you might not have been, but dropping Hebrew words into French didn’t help much. Had I dropped English into the conversation, Guillaume would have had not a whit of trouble….

    Therein lies the situation. Perhaps, that’s the issue with those physicians who fear speaking in English. Dropping a word or two (or ten) in Japanese would utterly confound me!

  • http://lifebeforethebucket.blogspot.com/ Adrian Waller

    Every once in a while, pride holds me back from writing. It’s frustrating, because I know I’ve invested hours in practice and forming my voice, but sometimes, pride wins out.

  • http://deuceology.wordpress.com Larry Carter

    Pride may have held me back from submitting some posts. I don’t want to look stupid in front of anyone, so I stop before subnitting.