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7 Mistaken and Misused Baby Phrases

Parents with newborns speak a language with baby phrases all their own during the first few months of the babies' life. Conversations surrounding the baby phrases such as gestational age or bilirubin levels or the wonder of simethicone drops are fairly common among new parents. However, there are some aspects of Newborn ParentSpeak that are flat out wrong. Here are seven inaccurate baby phrases that misrepresent the actual activity or meaning they convey. 7. Fussing - this particular … [Read more...]

When Your Child has Cancer…

Our sweet Sarah was just six when she was diagnosed with Stage IV Neuroblastoma.  Our family's world was shaken.  Our foundations were rocked.  Our grief was incalculable. Life and Death in a Song One day shortly after Sarah's diagnosis, I was running some errands and listening to the radio when a song called Untitled Hymn started playing. It beautifully described all the different chapters we go through in life and finished up with a verse about the end of life. It closed with the words, … [Read more...]

Theology is no Substitute for Waiting Under an Oak

I have an eight-year-old son now. He’s skinny, like I was. He’s (mostly) gentle, a rule follower, and he prefers playing with Legos by himself in his bedroom and please stay out unless you are offering food. Check, check and check – just like I used to be. Practicing the Ritual of Waiting I remember late on Saturday afternoons, when I was his age, I would hear my dad shouting out of the farmhouse. His voice moved like a ripple. I scrambled toward the house as fast as I could, grabbed … [Read more...]

No More Mr. Nice Guy

One of the reasons I love being married is that I don't have to play the dating game anymore. I won. However, there was a time when I thought I would die alone and wrinkly. As a rehabilitated "nice guy" I'm here to offer some hope for anyone stuck in the dating morass. Nice Guy Syndrome First, some quick background. I grew up with military parents, strict discipline, attended church and was raised to be chivalrous. You know, holding doors, pulling out chairs and all that - a modern … [Read more...]

Nothing Makes Me Feel More Like an Idiot than Parenting

My kids are weird.  Having my husband and I for parents really leaves them with no other option. Odd is hard-wired in their DNA. If you follow me on Twitter you've seen some of the stuff they say because I can't keep it to myself.  The world has to know.  Like: Daughter: "What's a catheter?" I explain... "OH NO!  I am never asking you anything again!" or Me: "Son, you're putting your pants on backwards." Him: "Don't judge me." Matter-of-Fact Belligerence Probably my best/worst … [Read more...]

10 Tips to Dating over 30

I’ve been at this a few years. I’ve tried online dating and dating friends of friends. I’ve tried dating people I’ve known for years and people I’ve just met. I’ve learned a lot from the experience, including that just because he says he’ll call doesn’t mean he will (Yes, I realize perhaps that should have been obvious). So here are some of my insights in case they help any of you who find yourselves dating during the years when some cultures relegate you permanently to “your own hut” or … [Read more...]

Loving Your Loved Ones Correctly

Sometimes, I find it hard it to love loved ones. Not because I don’t actually love them, but because I do not love them correctly. I say “I love you”, but I do not display it in my actions! Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always … [Read more...]

Parenting Tips From a Friend – Guest Post

Tor, I know you've done this before. You have two beautiful young girls. You're a great dad. You've raised them well. But you're rusty. It's been a while since you've had a brand new young'n. I thought I'd give you some tips on what's changed since you've been out of practice. Poop No change. Still stinky and manages to get places you'd rather it didn't. Food It's not just Gerber jars of greenish goo anymore. The cool new trend is to make it yourself from purely hippie, er, … [Read more...]

Life Lessons Learned from Potty Training

Recently, my wife and I went through the process of potty training our toddler. It was a challenging, humbling, and emotionally draining experience. From this, I learned or revisited many life lessons that can be applied to absolutely anything, from writing to building a house. Patience is critical. Life is going to get very crappy sometimes, but it will get better. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Things usually don’t happen as quickly as you’d like them to. With anything … [Read more...]

6 Secrets To Surviving Your Teenager

Recently, Tor shared twelve phrases a dad never wants to hear. As I thought about the additions that actually occurred in the past two weeks, I realized that being a teen these days is hard. I look at my single (adult) friends, and I think "not enough money or bad days in the world to make me enter into that fray."  People haul around more baggage than Southwest will fly for free. And then I look at my daughters.  Smart, funny, gorgeous, and insecure.  Teen angst lures them to … [Read more...]