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7 Mistaken and Misused Baby Phrases

Parents with newborns speak a language with baby phrases all their own during the first few months of the babies' life. Conversations surrounding the baby phrases such as gestational age or bilirubin levels or the wonder of simethicone drops are fairly common among new parents. However, there are some aspects of Newborn ParentSpeak that are flat out wrong. Here are seven inaccurate baby phrases that misrepresent the actual activity or meaning they convey. 7. Fussing - this … [Read more...]

When Your Child has Cancer…

Our sweet Sarah was just six when she was diagnosed with Stage IV Neuroblastoma.  Our family's world was shaken.  Our foundations were rocked.  Our grief was incalculable. Life and Death in a Song One day shortly after Sarah's diagnosis, I was running some errands and listening to the radio when a song called Untitled Hymn started playing. It beautifully described all the different chapters we go through in life and finished up with a verse about the end of life. It closed with the … [Read more...]

Theology is no Substitute for Waiting Under an Oak

I have an eight-year-old son now. He’s skinny, like I was. He’s (mostly) gentle, a rule follower, and he prefers playing with Legos by himself in his bedroom and please stay out unless you are offering food. Check, check and check – just like I used to be. Practicing the Ritual of Waiting I remember late on Saturday afternoons, when I was his age, I would hear my dad shouting out of the farmhouse. His voice moved like a ripple. I scrambled toward the house as fast as I could, … [Read more...]

No More Mr. Nice Guy

One of the reasons I love being married is that I don't have to play the dating game anymore. I won. However, there was a time when I thought I would die alone and wrinkly. As a rehabilitated "nice guy" I'm here to offer some hope for anyone stuck in the dating morass. Nice Guy Syndrome First, some quick background. I grew up with military parents, strict discipline, attended church and was raised to be chivalrous. You know, holding doors, pulling out chairs and all that - a modern … [Read more...]

Nothing Makes Me Feel More Like an Idiot than Parenting

My kids are weird.  Having my husband and I for parents really leaves them with no other option. Odd is hard-wired in their DNA. If you follow me on Twitter you've seen some of the stuff they say because I can't keep it to myself.  The world has to know.  Like: Daughter: "What's a catheter?" I explain... "OH NO!  I am never asking you anything again!" or Me: "Son, you're putting your pants on backwards." Him: "Don't judge me." Matter-of-Fact Belligerence Probably my … [Read more...]

10 Tips to Dating over 30

I’ve been at this a few years. I’ve tried online dating and dating friends of friends. I’ve tried dating people I’ve known for years and people I’ve just met. I’ve learned a lot from the experience, including that just because he says he’ll call doesn’t mean he will (Yes, I realize perhaps that should have been obvious). So here are some of my insights in case they help any of you who find yourselves dating during the years when some cultures relegate you permanently to … [Read more...]

Loving Your Loved Ones Correctly

Sometimes, I find it hard it to love loved ones. Not because I don’t actually love them, but because I do not love them correctly. I say “I love you”, but I do not display it in my actions! Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always … [Read more...]

6 Secrets To Surviving Your Teenager

Recently, Tor shared twelve phrases a dad never wants to hear. As I thought about the additions that actually occurred in the past two weeks, I realized that being a teen these days is hard. I look at my single (adult) friends, and I think "not enough money or bad days in the world to make me enter into that fray."  People haul around more baggage than Southwest will fly for free. And then I look at my daughters.  Smart, funny, gorgeous, and insecure.  Teen angst lures them to … [Read more...]

Adoption – Learning to Say YES!!!

When, Grace, our fourth child came along, I was certain we were done having kids. Who wouldn’t be? Four is a full house. While I saw full bedrooms, a full minivan, and an empty pantry, my wife saw room for one more. The word “adoption” would occasionally get thrown around our conversations. To me it was an important topic. One that all of us should be actively involved in. I felt my role was to “actively” watch everyone else do all of the work. I still remember the first … [Read more...]

3 Tips for Parents of Teenagers (From a guy with no kids)

Six months ago I got married. And two weeks ago my wife and I taught the "Parenting Teens" class at my church because, you know, wait . . . we're qualified to do that? What was my church thinking?! To be fair, we both work for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship at Oregon State University. We spend large chunks of our days with college students and kids in their late teens. So I guess you could say we know a thing or two. Teaching that class was an exciting and humbling experience. We may … [Read more...]