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When Your Child has Cancer…

Our sweet Sarah was just six when she was diagnosed with Stage IV Neuroblastoma.  Our family's world was shaken.  Our foundations were rocked.  Our grief was incalculable. Life and Death in a Song One day shortly after Sarah's diagnosis, I was running some errands and listening to the radio when a song called Untitled Hymn started playing. It beautifully described all the different chapters we go through in life and finished up with a verse about the end of life. It closed with the words, … [Read more...]

Theology is no Substitute for Waiting Under an Oak

I have an eight-year-old son now. He’s skinny, like I was. He’s (mostly) gentle, a rule follower, and he prefers playing with Legos by himself in his bedroom and please stay out unless you are offering food. Check, check and check – just like I used to be. Practicing the Ritual of Waiting I remember late on Saturday afternoons, when I was his age, I would hear my dad shouting out of the farmhouse. His voice moved like a ripple. I scrambled toward the house as fast as I could, grabbed … [Read more...]

10 Tips to Dating over 30

I’ve been at this a few years. I’ve tried online dating and dating friends of friends. I’ve tried dating people I’ve known for years and people I’ve just met. I’ve learned a lot from the experience, including that just because he says he’ll call doesn’t mean he will (Yes, I realize perhaps that should have been obvious). So here are some of my insights in case they help any of you who find yourselves dating during the years when some cultures relegate you permanently to “your own hut” or … [Read more...]

Loving Your Loved Ones Correctly

Sometimes, I find it hard it to love loved ones. Not because I don’t actually love them, but because I do not love them correctly. I say “I love you”, but I do not display it in my actions! Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always … [Read more...]

Parenting – The Tender Balance

There’s something growing inside my wife. A living, breathing, heartbeat-having creation. That creation is currently about 37 weeks. It has a name. He has a name. His name is Aidan Robert, and he’s scheduled to leave the comfort and relative darkness of my wife’s womb on August. Parenting Imponderables I wonder what he’ll be like. I wonder if he’ll have his mother’s eyes or his father’s lack of a defined chin. I wonder if he’ll be sweet like my wife or if he’ll have my … [Read more...]

For the Fatherless – a Heart for Orphans

I'm a graduating college senior and we recently submitted our "big" senior papers. Having finished mine about two weeks early, it wasn't anything monumental in my mind. However, what I learned from my research was enough to break my heart even further for those who are broken, for those who don't can't speak for themselves. This is the first thing that comes to my mind when I think of orphans. In the Old Testament, there is a litany of passages which talk about three major people-groups … [Read more...]

The Key to a Better Marriage is Laughter

Why did the hipster burn his tongue? Because he drank his fair-trade, organic, Rainforest Alliance decaffeinated green tea before it was cool. Ok, maybe I shouldn't quit my day job and become a comedian after that joke but laughter, humor and comedy are integral parts of our culture. We love to laugh. Many people have careers that consist of making people laugh, but did you know it is also a crucial component to your marriage and relationships? My wife (Jen) and I have found … [Read more...]

Habits – From Quirky to Annoying After “I Do”

“I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” ~ Rita Rudner Before a couple is married, it’s easy for them to think living together with another human being 24/7 will be a breeze. After all, if they could survive growing up with people with whom they had no prior input as to whether or not they cohabitated, then living with their spouse by their own free will should be a cakewalk. But as any couple married for a month or … [Read more...]

Adoption – Learning to Say YES!!!

When, Grace, our fourth child came along, I was certain we were done having kids. Who wouldn’t be? Four is a full house. While I saw full bedrooms, a full minivan, and an empty pantry, my wife saw room for one more. The word “adoption” would occasionally get thrown around our conversations. To me it was an important topic. One that all of us should be actively involved in. I felt my role was to “actively” watch everyone else do all of the work. I still remember the first time she … [Read more...]

Love – Finding a Definition That Works

Our culture is obsessed with the idea of love. Films, music, art, and even Virginia bumper stickers are saturated with the word “love.” But there is a problem: most of us cannot define love. We know that a feeling is involved. Ron Burgundy claims it is like, “skyrockets in flight!” Many can identify examples of love, but definitions rarely get passed, “you know, it’s love!” I recently celebrated my third anniversary to a far more amazing wife then a guy like me could ask for. Before … [Read more...]