Fighting the Urgent and Unimportant….

Gandhi fought "tyranny of the urgent" before actual tyranny - image via Gandhi Foundation

When was the last time you went an entire day, not having to speak to anyone or spent an extended amount of time in self-imposed isolation?

Personally, I can’t remember ever going a 24-hour period without talking to another person.

While I’m a professional communicator and a natural chatterbox at heart, I think the issue goes deeper. The truth is that the demands of our western society require us to engage with others whether we want to or not.

I only raise the question of solitude because I stumbled across a quote from Henry David Thoreau where he stated, “I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”

Now I love my family dearly and I’m grateful to have a job where I interact with capable and kind people every day. But all of us could benefit from some quiet, alone time – but that gets shoved aside in the cacophony’s of noise that surrounds the “…cares of life, pursuit of wealth and desires for other things…” that most of us seek each day.

Quiet, peaceable solitude allows us to temporarily separate ourselves from the rigorous daily rituals of the church of materialism to which the vast majority of us are fanatic zealots.

Contrast that with the great Hindu leader and liberator of India Mahatma Gandhi. Gandhi had a strict regimen of silence that he observed on every Monday. He was so dedicated to that practice, that he even observed it when visited by the King of England.

Could any of us follow that standard? I know that I couldn’t.

However, I get small glimpses of the benefits derived from periodic solitude when I run for an hour or two in a park or along a trail. In that setting alone with my own thoughts, the things that don’t matter tend to drain away while those things that matter most – family and faith – come into a sharper focus for a short time.

The biggest obstacles for me to maintain that focus for longer periods are the mounting distractions and tyranny of the urgent – not necessarily important – issues of life. There is a difference between urgent and important. A ringing cellphone is urgent, demanding immediate attention but if the caller is a telemarketer the call is not really important and is little more than a distraction.

Author and Oxford scholar C.S. Lewis is famous for saying, “If there’s a spirit of hell, it’s the spirit of distraction.”

I believe that statement to be profoundly true, and I could do with a lot less “hell” in my life?

Question: How do you fight off the “tyranny of the urgent” and strive to keep peace in your life?

  • Amanda Sachs

    Great post! My mother used to go on silent retreats when my sister and I were kids. I didn’t get it then but now… I totally understand. I’m pretty sure that’s how she stayed a sane single mom for that period of time in her life.

  • http://www.adjuvancy.com/wordpress Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A.

    I, too, have similar feelings.
    I think I get that opportunity whenever I travel on business. I am separated from my family, have the occasion to operate totally bereft of their support system- and come back energized to rejoin their embrace.

  • http://theoddcoupleblog.com/ Shawn

    Silence. Ahh I look at it like the fountain of youth. I would probably be unhappy if I went more then 24 hrs without human interaction but I so enjoy the days when there is nobody home and I don’t leave the house. That lets me prepare for enjoying the company of my hubby when he gets home.

  • Jenny

    What I wouldn’t give for even an hour a week. The family & I are together practically 24/7. Two work from home parents & 3 home schooled kids = one set of frazzled nerves. After reading your post, I may be staging an escape to the library or the park very soon LOL!

  • http://www.solarontarioblog.ca/ David

    I have kids. Even the bathroom doesn’t provide an escape from engagement.

  • Ella Venezia

    I agree with the Amanda’s comment- seeing as I’m a single mom myself. The key is intention. Being intentional to carve that quiet time out of your otherwise busy life. For me it’s escaping into a Starbucks or just late at night at home in my pajamas, with my earphones on listening to soothing (to my spirit) music as I read or write.

  • http://www.ramblingbarba.com Ken Hagerman

    I have to just pack up and head out. My life has me in the house all day which means I get stir crazy or just regular crazy. I have to pull out some alone time to refocus. I also have to work that in for my wife too. I totally agree that we need that quiet time to be better at what it is we do.

  • http://facebook.com/socialmediastrategies Angela Albright

    Interesting post. Hmm, well as a believer in the Spiritual Laws of the Universe….if I am in a state of the “tyranny of the urgent” (as a regular state) I would look within because our outside world is simply a reflection/mirror of our internal world, so I would look within to see “what is that reflecting to me”. Example: If everything is always chaotic, stressful, “never enough time to get it all done” (same as not good enough), then I would reflect back and connect to the time(s)/experiences in my childhood where I experienced those emotions (of not being good enough, not counting) , connect with the emotions of that and flow them and let those blocks go. Then I can begin creating a more peaceful environment where I count and “things” happen on my schedule, not life’s. I have actually done exactly this, as a mother of twins who has (in the past) been a work-a-holic (keep myself busy and life chaotic and that way I don’t have to feel what is really going on). Now, my life is not recognizable. I work way way less, have way more time for me and a more peaceful life. I approach work projects with a timeline that works for me and the Universe absolutely supports it! And with way more financial abundance than it ever did when I was working around the clock. The Law of Attraction and the Law of Reflection are powerful spiritual laws that can help us be the Creators of our lives…..not victims of our lives. We manifest every single thing into our lives as a mirror of how we experience our Self on the inside. Wishing you all much peace, love and abundance on your journey. xx angela